INBOX FROM: Secret Lover….
Hello Marlee, how are you? I’m glad I ran across your blog because I literally need to get something off my chest. I have a situation I need you to help me with. I’m 29 years old transgender female and dating a 33 year old heterosexual male. I been dating him for 8 months and yes we had sex. I have had the surgery to get my manly parts fixed and I look rather beautiful if I must say so myself. I was born male but always felt like I was a female from day one. I never did any masculine things at all. The problem that I need help with is letting my man know that I was born male without him snapping. He is such a great man with an awesome job and beautiful personality. He is also very open minded. I feel bad because I feel like I been lying to him and I feel he deserves to know the truth. Is there any way I can let him know without him blowing a gasket…. HELP ME PLEASE!!!! -Secret Lover-
Response from Ask Marlee-
Hello Secret Lover; Wow!!! You have spinned a little web for yourself. We all know in relationships that honesty is the best policy. You say your guy is open minded and that he’s awesome, hopefully he will stay that way when you reveal your real gender. Has he shown you a side of him that has been violent or that he has the potential to snap? Most heterosexual males that are 100% straight will more than likely snap especially if he’s brought you around friends or family. He will be embarrassed to say the least. I say if you are going to tell him, do it in a safe environment or over the phone to protect your safety. He has the right to know. I will keep you in my prayers because you definitely will need it. Keep me posted and good luck.
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